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The Sacrament of Reconcilliation (Confession)

“Come to me, all you who labour and are burdened, and I will give you rest.” In Confession (also called Reconciliation), we bring the Lord our weary hearts, our regrets, and the places we’ve fallen short, and we receive His mercy and peace in return.

The Sacrament of Reconciliation

Confession is not a courtroom; it’s a clinic. You come as you are, a little bruised by life and your own choices, and the Lord meets you with His mercy. Through the priest, Jesus lifts the weight, restores peace, and helps you begin again with a steadier heart.

If the very thought makes you nervous, you’re in good company. Most people feel that way — even after many years of going. Don’t worry.

Learn what confession is, how to do it, and where you can receive this sacrament below.

When and Where

We offer Confession at set times each week, and you’re also welcome to ask for an appointment if you can’t make these.

Stamford (Saturday): 5.00–5.45pm
Oakham (Saturday): 3.30–4.00pm
Oakham (Wednesday): 9.30–9.50am

If you’re unsure where to go when you arrive, have a look at our church pages or simply ask someone at the door.

You might also find it helpful to check Mass times, especially if you’re hoping to go to Confession before Mass.

What Is Confession?

Confession is a sacrament — which means it’s something Jesus gave the Church as a real, practical way for grace to reach us. It has three simple movements:

  1. You speak honestly about your sins.

  2. You receive mercy the priest gives absolution in Jesus’ name.

  3. You begin again with a small penance to help you put your repentance into action.

It’s not about having the perfect speech. It’s about telling the truth with a willing heart.

Who Is Confession for?

Confession is for Catholics who want to be reconciled with God and the Church, especially if they’re aware of serious sin, or if they simply want a clean heart and a fresh start.

If you are not Catholic (or not yet received into the Church), you are still very welcome to come and speak with a priest, we’re glad to listen and support you, but sacramental absolution is ordinarily for those who are baptised Catholics (or are preparing to be received). If you’re exploring the faith, you might find RCIA a helpful next step.

If you’re preparing for another sacrament, confession can be a beautiful part of that preparation:

Baptism

Baptism welcomes us into God’s family, cleansing us from original sin and marking the beginning of our journey in faith.

Eucharist

In the Eucharist, we receive the true presence of Christ, nourishing and strengthening us in our daily lives.

Confirmation

Confirmation deepens our baptismal grace, empowering us with the Holy Spirit to live boldly and joyfully as disciples of Christ.

Marriage

In Marriage, couples enter a sacred covenant of lifelong love, reflecting Christ’s faithful love for the Church.

Reconciliation (Confession)

Through Reconciliation, we experience God’s mercy and forgiveness, restoring peace and spiritual strength to our hearts.

Annointing of the Sick

This sacrament provides comfort, healing, and spiritual strength to those who are ill or facing significant challenges.

Holy Orders

Through Holy Orders, men are ordained to serve the Church faithfully as deacons, priests, or bishops, guiding the community in faith

Going to Confession: What to Do and What to Say

1

Arrive and settle your heart

Find a quiet place to sit, breathe slowly, and ask the Holy Spirit for honesty and peace.
You might whisper: “Lord, help me to be truthful and not afraid.”

2

When it’s your turn, go in

Some people like the screen, some prefer face-to-face. Either is perfectly fine

3

Begin with the Sign of the Cross.

“In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.”

4

Start with a simple opening.

“Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been a week / a month / a long time since my last confession.”

5

Confess your sins simply and honestly.

“I’ve missed Mass without a good reason.”

“I’ve been impatient and sharp-tongued at home.”
“I’ve held on to resentment and refused to forgive.”
“I’ve been drinking more than I should.”

6

Listen for a word of counsel and receive a penance.

The priest may offer a short encouragement, a practical suggestion, and then a penance.
You can respond simply: “Thank you, Father.”

7

Make your Act of Contrition. (Or read it)

"O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my sins because they offend Thy infinite goodness, and because I love Thee above all things. I firmly resolve, with the help of Thy grace, to sin no more and to avoid the near occasions of sin. Amen."

8

Receive Absolution

The priest will pray the words of absolution. At the end you respond: “Amen.”
Many people make the Sign of the Cross again.

9

Go in peace, and do your penance soon afterwards.

“Thank you, Father.”
Then, if you can, do the penance in the church straight away and spend a moment thanking God:
“Lord, thank you for your mercy. Help me to begin again.”

Confession FAQs

Do I have to book, or can I just come?

You can simply come during the published times and wait your turn. If you need a longer conversation or can’t make those times, you can arrange an appointment via our Contact page.

What’s the difference between Confession and Reconciliation?

They’re the same sacrament. “Confession” highlights telling the truth; “Reconciliation” highlights being restored to friendship with God and the Church.

Who can go to confession?

Confession is for Catholics who want to be reconciled with God, especially if they’re aware of serious sin or simply want a clean start. If you’re not Catholic, you’re still very welcome to speak with the priest, and RCIA may be a good next step.

How long does confession take?

Often just a few minutes. If something needs more time, we can arrange a separate appointment so you’re not rushed.

What do I say at the start?

You can begin: “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been… since my last confession.” If you’re nervous, it helps to add: “I’ve not been for a long time.”

What if I don’t remember how to do it?

That’s completely fine — just say so, and the priest will guide you gently. You don’t have to know the “right” words to receive God’s mercy.

What if I forget a sin?

Do your best and don’t panic. If you later remember something important, bring it next time — God is not looking to catch you out.

Do I have to list every detail?

No. Be honest and clear, but you don’t need a full story; a simple description is usually enough.

Will the priest remember what I say?

The priest is bound by the seal of confession, which is absolute. What you say is never repeated — to anyone, for any reason.

Do I need to memorise the Act of Contrition?

No. You can read one, (the words are printed inside the confessional) say a simple one you know, or speak to God in your own words; the priest can help if you get stuck.

What is a penance?

It’s a small prayer or practical step that helps you begin again. It isn’t a punishment; it’s a gentle remedy.

Should I go to Confession before receiving Holy Communion?

If you’re aware of serious sin, it’s best to go to Confession first. If you’re unsure, speak to the priest — we’d rather help you calmly than have you worry alone.

What if I can’t make the scheduled times?

Please get in touch and we’ll arrange another time. See Contact for details.

When is Confession?

Stamford: Saturday 5.00–5.45pm. Oakham: Saturday 3.30–4.00pm and Wednesday 9.30–9.50am (see Oakham and Stamford for church information).

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